Going home for Christmas is always a big deal, and there are a fewthings that make me crazy.
As an independent person living on my own, I cant help but feel transported to a different era in my life whenever I go home for the holidays.
Its such a long way, and my parents refuse to treat me like an adult whenever I go home.
They insist on givingme a curfew, and I’m not allowed to drink or go out any night.
Yes, I know the holidays are meant to be spent with family, but we all know one of the greatest reasons to go back home is to see your friends.
We all feel like we havent seen them in forever, and it never hurts when youre pretty much one of the only ones who finally made it out of her parents’ home before she was married.
I dont know if its a celebration that Im single and living on my own, while theyre all living with their parents and with boyfriends.
But, I do feel Im accomplishing something.
Ive been out of my house for about three years now, and the fact I wasn’t murdered the first year Ileft home and was only robbed once seems like a big deal for me.
No onetells me I have to be home by 2 am, and no one tells me I cannot drink wine after work and watch “Sex and the City” until the sun comes up.
I answer to myself, so why is it so hard for my parents to understand that?
Its really confusing, but I have discovered ways to deal with the parental situation over the holidays.
1. Small Amounts Of Alcohol Throughout The Day
Yes, I am a drinker.
Whenever I go home, my mom insists I shouldnt drink because of the calories or the possibilityI’ll insult the family.
But, I discovered she doesnt really mind if I drink wine.
Why? I have no idea.
But instead of sipping on my regular gin and tonic or dirty martini, Ill sip mywine.
It’s not enough to get me drunk, but it’s enough to make every ridiculous holiday situation seem like something I can actually handle.
Just keep a slight buzz, and youll be fine.
Youll laugh at your uncle’s creepy jokes, youll let your moms criticizing comments slide and you wont be overwhelmed by all the craziness.
2. Saying Yes
Sometimes, our family asks us to do things we dont really want to do.
You’re told to drive your cousin to the store, to go fetch whatever ridiculous thing on the other side of town or to just simply sit and play Scrabble.
Say yes to all of it, and theyll be so pleased and happy.
Youll be the best daughter in the world because youre helping out.
And when you announce youre leaving to have drinks with friends, it’s more likely no one will get mad because youve been helping the family all day.
3. Wearing The Ridiculous Sweater
We all have that family member who likes to give us funky socks well never wear and ugly sweaters that make us look likesnowmen.
Just put onthe sweater.
And since youll have a slight buzz after following step number one, you wont even care.
Take pictures wearing it.
Besides, no one will ever see them because youll bury them so deep in hell, no one will ever find them.
Make everyone happy, and that way, they wont come down too hard on you.
4. The Single Situation
Its customary for family members to ask you when you’ll get a boyfriend or when you’ll get married.
For those of us who are single, were tired of hearing that question.
We dont know if Mr. Right will come, and we dont know if well ever find “the one.”
I found that if I smile and say Im working on it (instead of telling them a sad story about how much I miss my ex and how dating is a total nightmare), theyll back off for a while.
Theyll be happy to hearyoure happy because in the end, that’s allthey really want to hear.
5. Playing With The Little Ones
In order to avoid more uncomfortable questions, its best if you play games with the kids in the family.
The rest of the family will think youll be a good mother one day (even if its not in your plans), and your brain will getto rest.
Theres something so comforting about talking to an 8-year-old about life.
Trust me; youll learn a thing or two.
6. Reading And Writing
For me, reading and writing has always been a way out.
When your family members see you doing this, theyll think youre super smart, even if youre just reading “Twilight” and writing a to-do list.
They will leave you alone for a while because if youre reading or staring at your computer and typing, theyll assume its work or something important for school.
Holidays with family are always crazy.
Theres drama, yelling and sometimes even crying.
But, the main thing is you have to actually be there.
Be present, and try to enjoy your family because theyre all you really have.
Even if you hate them sometimes and cant understand a word theyre saying, theyre all you have.
So these holidays, try to be smart about what you do.
Instead of fighting them over nothing, be nice.
Thisway, youll be able to do whatever you want to do with your nights.